In the event you missed part one you can read it here.
6. You can’t afford it. It is accurate to say that homeschooling isn’t cheap. Although I’d argue that it doesn’t need to be as expensive as some make it. When we first started homeschooling six years ago my husband was making a mere $10.30 an hour for a family of five. One area I was concerned about with homeschooling when we began this journey was being able to afford it. Amidst my fear a sweet friend pointed out that I was neglecting to trust God with our needs. If we were indeed called to homeschool then our needs would certainly be met, perhaps though not as we envisioned. God did indeed provide all of our needs and a few wants as well. Every year our homeschooling needs are provided for and I am reminded to assess where and to whom I put my trust. Money isn’t everything and we should not be ruled by it. After all we can’t serve two masters. You may need to give up your daily fancy beverage or your manicure and your husband may need to give up or cut back on the expensive beer and tobacco. We are not on this earth to serve ourselves; we are here to love God and serve others, which includes our children. Read more here on anxiety and worry.
7. Your kids wont mind you and you don’t like homeschooling. I can understand and relate as to why this would cause you to avoid homeschooling at all costs. If you like everything in your life every day then you probably should not homeschool and I’d like to meet you because I’ve never known anyone who is happy and likes everything 100% of the time. You need to closely evaluate why your kids and you are not liking homeschooling and see if the reasons are valid and if there is something you can do to remedy the issue without just throwing in the towel. Homeschooling does not look just one way; you can mold it to fit your family.
On the other hand if you don’t like homeschooling simply because of the behavior of your child or children then perhaps some re-evaluating and additional training is needed. Character training is a vital part of parenting. Having our kids home with us all day holds a mirror up in our face showing us our own character weaknesses and strengths while also pointing out the character traits in our children. Let’s face it, this can be frightening and feel a bit defeating at times.
When we started homeschooling we needed to detox ourselves from public school and also work heavily in character training in all of us. For a while not much was accomplished in academics but that was okay as academics is not our top priority. We were working hard in the areas we needed to grow our character and hearts. Be attentive to not just create moral little beings but rather promote heart changes and growing to be more like Christ. Training our children is hard work but it is what we are called to do as parents no matter how we choose to educate our children. Sending your kids to school outside of the home does not negate your responsibility in this area. Homeschooling your children does not guarantee they will be free of rebellion or be Christ followers.
8. You are not a good teacher. I get it. No, really I do. I’m not a good teacher for children either. I really struggle in this way. This reason is one that I also had for not homeschooling. I felt it was a valid reason, and for some it is, for me it was not. I used it as an excuse to hide from the conviction I felt to homeschool. Part of homeschooling is doing school outside of the traditional education box. This means that I get to teach according to my child’s needs and in some areas, my needs as well.
Early on my kids needed me to be a little more hands on but from day one I’m training them to be independent learners. Once they learn to read well enough to read instructions I turn them loose in their assignments. They read the directions and they are required to try before they ever come to me. I select the entire curriculum and I determine when their tests will be. I inform them which assignments need to be completed and I correct their papers and tests. I do not stand in front of them and lecture them prior to giving assignments. I do not walk them through the assignment (well sometimes I do but it is rare). If they need help I am always available though I do struggle to do this with a consistent happy heart. Our reason for schooling this way is to help them learn for themselves, ask questions, investigate, be creative, and problem solve. This method is not conducive for all families or all children. I am only sharing with you what we have found to work well in our family for all of our needs and to illustrate how homeschooling does not need to look like traditional school.
If you are still proclaiming that you are not a good teacher let me ask you this; who taught your child how walk, how to talk, how to feed themselves? More than likely it was you that taught them these tools, and many other life skills, from the moment they were born. More than all of these reasons, you are a good teacher because God chose you to be the mama to your kids and he doesn’t make mistakes. Even if you do not homeschool your children you are their primary teacher in all areas of their life.
9. You are not the arts and crafts type. Well this is me. I like teaching or coming up with crafts about as much as I enjoy a root canal. In college I was an art major but I do not like glue and fuzzy pom poms on a daily basis. Every time I’m asked to lead crafts for the kids at church I cringe. Teaching art history and advanced art is more my style. Crafts were not incorporated into our school day until my kids were old enough to figure out what they wanted to create through books with instructions and they needed to be able to clean up their mess. Also, arts and crafts are not a requirement for homeschooling so relax; you don’t need to be a craft queen or king to homeschool. Additionally, I don’t teach history, as it is not my cup of tea. My husband takes on that responsibility as he thoroughly enjoys history.
10. My child has special needs. Just like with everything else that involves having a child with special needs, whether you homeschool or not your child will have special needs in their education and someone will need to meet those needs. Do you believe that someone other than you is better equipped? Are you not able to learn how to provide those needs? Who else, other than the child’s mother or father is more suitable for the task? God specially chose you to be the child’s mother, that is an honorable and difficult calling, but it is yours and although it may not always feel like it, it is a blessing.
I do have some understanding with this; I have a child with special needs. It is hard. It is messy. I don’t like it. I can’t change it. I must embrace it. I must do my best through it, relying not on my strengths and gifts but relying solely on God. As much as I don’t always (well most of the time) want to homeschool this particular child it is the path that God has for us and we do believe it is what is best for this child regardless of how challenging it can be.
11. If you believe education is amoral. If you are comfortable with strangers raising your kids and teaching them from an atheistic foundation then you should not homeschool. Anyone who believes in and follows Christ that doesn’t see how God permeates through education is missing the bulls-eye. Math seems to be the subject of choice for those who argue that God is not in everything. So lets take a tiny glimpse into math and God for a moment.
God, who is in fact an orderly God, first presents math to us during creation in Genesis 1. The scriptures paint for us the magnificent picture of how creation came to be. It was not random or messy. On specific days, particular objects were created in a precise order. This is merely one small example of how God is in the math we teach our kids daily. If we are teaching math or any subject and not pointing our kids to the gospel through the subjects we are in essence discrediting our Creator, the creator of everything.
I do know some parents that have their kids in school outside of the home and they do a phenomenal job at sifting out the atheistic garbage that is fed to their kids. I know some homeschooling families that are well intentioned but do a rather poor job at teaching their children about God and his creation. Regardless of your education method, if God isn’t in the center, I encourage you to restructure. If after reading all of this you feel that we have this all figured out you are highly mistaking. We still have a great deal to learn! Lastly, whether you are homeschooling or not consider also training your children well in apologetics to help them be better prepared to be the salt and light but also to have a good understanding where nonbelievers are coming from.
*Proverbs 22:6 is not a biblical promise, however, it is a great deal of encouragement and wisdom.